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How to Avoid Becoming a Grumpy Old Woman
We've all come face to face with the stereotypical grumpy old woman: Maybe she was in line behind you at the grocery store pointing out that you and your full cart should've let her go first. Perhaps she called your company complaining about a faulty product she received. She might even live next door, yelling at your kids whenever a stray ball lands in her yard.
It's daily encounters like these that may leave you thinking that grumpiness is inevitable after you hit 60. But despite how many pessimistic women you might meet, you don't ever have to be that way! Plus, being optimistic as you age has proven health benefits. Here's how you can avoid becoming "that mean old lady."
Look at the Benefits of Aging
Standing in front of the mirror, it might be hard to see how on earth aging can be a good thing. But when you think about it, there are plenty of reasons why it's great to be middle-aged.
It's been proven that people are generally happier in their 50s and beyond than in their younger years. A recent survey of more than 340,000 people published in Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences showed that feelings of stress, worry and anger dropped significantly as people passed middle age, while happiness and enjoyment levels increased.
Similarly, an article in Psychology Today says that research on different age groups in the United Kingdom showed that people over 60 were the happiest age group, with happiness starting to rise after age 50. A recent worldwide survey reported similar results, with people who were in good health in their 70s being as happy and mentally healthy as 20-year-olds.
Why? Psychology Today speculates that it may be partly because older age people face less stress and responsibility. They may no longer be climbing the career ladder or facing the emotional and financial struggles of parenthood. But it's also about "letting go"—learning to accept your strengths and weaknesses and letting go of unrealistic goals, attachments and aspirations. In other words, acceptance. You may think of it as learning to live in the moment.
Some older people—the ones who get grumpy and bitter—may never be able to accept that they're not going to reach the pinnacle of their career or that their looks have faded or their children have grown and left home. But, for those who can let go of these attachments and get in contact with their "core selves," they may find a happiness they've never known, experts say.
So, a good first step toward happiness in old age is to stop looking toward external things for happiness and focus on the contentment of simply being. Don't worry about what you didn't achieve or what happened or didn't happen in the past; think about your life now. If you're having trouble being contented in the moment, you may want to consider classes that will help with inward focus, such as yoga, tai chi or meditation practices.
Thanks to advancements in health care, you may still have many good years ahead of you. Think of the new opportunities you can explore—in your golden years—such as new hobbies, new friends, a new home, new grandchildren, or just a good new book.
Research shows that staying socially active and maintaining interpersonal relationships can help you stay physically and emotionally healthy—and happy. So how can you stay connected when your children have moved away and you've retired from work?
Here are a few suggestions:
Believe it or not, simply being optimistic can improve your health. Research has shown that people with better outlooks on life catch fewer colds, have higher levels of "good cholesterol," have a reduced risk for heart attack and might even live longer. With benefits like that, why wouldn't you want to stay positive?
While eating a healthy diet, getting regular exercise and following the recommendations of your health care providers are crucial for those approaching middle age and beyond, there's no denying that being optimistic is another great way to improve your health.
Next time you feel down or are tempted
to lash out at someone like a grumpy old woman would, remind yourself that
you have plenty of time left to experience life as you want to live it,
and that this is only the beginning of another half-lifetime of happiness.
WHERE GROWN-UPS KEEP GROWING
America is in the midst of an age boom and with it, an amazing transition. In general, those of us over the age of 50 are expected to live longer than any previous generation.
We're in the process of creating a new life stage that lies somewhere between young adulthood and "old-old" adulthood. This stage doesn't have a name. We call it Adult Part 2. And if you're reading this you're probably smack dab in it.
You're aware that many years of life lie ahead of you and, very likely, you have a different set of expectations for these "bonus years" than you had for earlier adulthood. You sense that you can somehow apply your knowledge and experiences in a meaningful way. Yet you may not know exactly how to achieve this new vision or see all the many possibilities available to you as you navigate the physical, health, work, and financial shifts that inevitably accompany this phase.
Avenue. We're a group of public television people and journalists who,
for the most part, are experiencing the very same things you are. Like
you, we see both challenges and opportunities and we recognize that what
we could all use right about now is an abundance of reliable information
that can help us figure out what's, well, next.
Are you a Grandparent? Then you might just relate to these toons!
Out walking Alzheimer's
Taking a regular, daily walk is good for
physical health, and now it appears that it may slow the progression of
Alzheimer's disease and ward off mental decline as well. The amount of
walking needed to realize these benefits to the brain is more than just
a stroll around the block: researchers from the University of Pittsburgh
concluded that to guard against cognitive decline, you've got to put in
an average of at least five miles a week, every week, for about 10 years.
The investigators analyzed data from an ongoing 20-year study looking at
the weekly walking patterns among 426 seniors. At the start of the study,
44 of the participants already had Alzheimer's and another 83 had mild
cognitive impairment (in half of all cases, this disorder eventually progresses
Are relationships/dating/love/sex different After Pause?Yes! Absolutely! For one thing there's less pressure to always please someone else. We can finally think of ourselves first and if our partner doesn't get it......who's problem is it? Not mine! I guess this comes from so many years of giving, giving, giving and compromising and conceding our beliefs to keep the peace and find some kind of balance in our daily lives as well as beating our heads against the perverbial wall trying to figure out how the other person "felt" about us. I was always looking for confirmation that I was loved and was constantly looking for the same kind of love that I was giving.....well, that's another good thing about being "a certain age", I can recognize the qualities that I want in a partner much faster than I did years ago.
When I started this website almost 16 years ago, there wasn't much about menopause on the internet and I spent most of my time trying to help women navigate through the early signs of "the change", from the first missed period to the very last period they would ever have!
There is so much more information available now that women have been able to find the answers they need by simply touching their keyboard or opening a book. What I'm finding now is that many women don't really know what comes AFTER the PAUSE! So I figured it was time for "Minnie" to show them that there IS life after menopause! :)
In this section of the website we'll talk about the kind of things we deal with after the hot flashes are over. We've managed to feel back in control of our lives and now most of the symptoms we deal with have nothing to do with menopause, but a lot to do with the aging process. I'm not saying it's all going to be great and certainly nothing will go back to what it was, so be ready to hear some information that you're not going to like. My best advice, just like with menopause, is to keep your sense of humor handy! You'll need it!
What is Overactive Bladder?
How often do you use the bathroom in a
typical day? Is it more than seven or eight times -- and you can't wait?
Are you getting up more than once or twice a night to urinate? You may
have overactive bladder. At least 30 million Americans suffer from OAB.
The need to urinate urgently at unpredictable times can cause problems
with your career, social life, and relationships. Read
How to Increase Your Metabolism Post Menopause By Susie McGee, M.Ed
Most women need to increase metabolism
post menopause in order to battle weight and overall health issues. As
women age, lean body weight decreases, while fat weight increases. This
is largely due to hormonal changes in the body, although genetic and even
environmental factors can also play a role in your metabolism. What can
you do to increase your metabolism if you are of post menopausal age? Keep
reading for some excellent tips and advice.
WHAT ABOUT DENTURES?
Believe it or not I've had to get dentures (in my 50's), so I want to share some of my experiences with those of you who are facing this decision or being forced to go this route.
There were several reasons why I got to the point of getting dentures, smoking and lack of insurance being the main ones. I have created a blog page (that was forgotten for more than a year) so now I will share it with you and hopefully help get you through it. It's also a place where you can talk about getting, having, wanting dentures without embarrassment!
I have some links on the blog
to help you find a denturist and a message board that has nothing but denture
wearers (or soon to be). There's a LOT to talk about, that's for sure!
DO YOU HATE THE WORD....SENIOR?
It's never really bothered me, but we really DO need a word to identify our status, so I've finally figured it out. We're BOOMIORS!! Just pronounce it like Juniors or Seniors.
Of course if you plan on using
your AARP card for discounts, you'll have to claim to be a Senior, but
you'll know in your heart that you're not there yet! LOL
I want you to contribute to this section so that those who are asking "how long does this last", " when will I feel like ME again" and "when is it over?", will get a clearer picture of life after menopause.I will be sharing some comments I found on the internet about "after the pause"..... Send me your thoughts about this stage of life so I can share them....
"Women are now free to enjoy their changing bodies, and can live an abundant and joyful life. There is life after menopause, and you may find it far more exciting than you thought possible!"
Are you looking for ways to get healthy and peel the years off your body? Dr. Oz and Dr.Roizen are back with the ultimate anti-aging checklist. Don't wait until you're falling apart -change the way you look at life and start your path to health today. You'll feel better, lookbetter, be healthier and could actually live longer! Dr. Oz's Anti-Aging Checklist
A New Way to Lower Blood Pressure
Cut back on sugar-sweetened drinks. A study from Louisiana State University Health Science Center School of Public Health found that reducing daily intake of sweetened beverages may lower blood pressure enough to decrease deaths from stroke by eight percent and from coronary heart disease by five percent. The trick is to eliminate an average of two servings a day of soft drinks, fruit drinks, lemonade and fruit punch drinks sweetened with sugar or high-fructose corn syrup. The study included 810 adults age 25 to 79 who had been diagnosed with high blood pressure or prehypertension.
Significant Cardiovascular Benefits for Postmenopausal Women
Eating a serving of whole grains, such as quinoa, at least 6 times each week is an especially good idea for postmenopausal women with high cholesterol, high blood pressure or other signs of cardiovascular disease (CVD).
A 3-year prospective study of over 200 postmenopausal women with CVD, published in the July 2005 issue of the American Heart Journal, shows that those eating at least 6 servings of whole grains each week experienced both:
Slowed progression of atherosclerosis,
the build-up of plaque that narrows the vessels through which blood flows,
The women's intake of fiber from fruits,
vegetables and refined grains was not associated with a lessening in CVD
For those of us dealing with the dreaded "belly fat", this article has some good info for post menopause, as well as menopause. Please be aware that if you don't do something about this now, you will very likely end up with diabetes.....it has happened to me and now I'm hoping to reverse the condition with diet, exercise and medication. I walk a mile a day, I'm eating a very low carb diet and am now taking Metformin. I've lost 21 lbs in the last 3 mo., but still want to lose another 20-30 lbs. Here's a good article for "Fitness after 50". Take action now! Dee
We all know that menopause changes our lives, but what if you already have health issues to deal with along WITH menopause? Or what kind of health problems can develop after menopause? It's really a matter of "what comes first, the chicken or the egg"?
As you approach menopause, ovaries gradually stop producing the hormone estrogen and progesterone. Both of these hormones affect insulin which is the hormone produced by the pancreas that deliver glucose which is life sustaing to every cell in the body.
Babyboomers Taking Care of Parents
Are you one of the 13 million
babyboomers who are taking care of elderly and ailing parents? According
to a 2005 survey from Campbell-Ewald Health, 25%
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|From WebMD: "Hormonal changes after menopause may change the way that your body breaks down and stores fat, leading to more fat accumulating in your belly."|