You've heard of "Dear Abby", now we've got "Dear Minnie" to respond to your questions about going through menopause or just getting through the "middle-rages" and making sense of all the issues that only a woman who has gone through it could do!
Each week "Minnie" will answer your questions about where to find the information you need to make your life (as it is now) easier! "Minnie" cannot answer medical questions, but she will try to direct you to the best possible place to get answers, whether it is an internet site or a specialist in your area.

Dear Minnie:
HELP!! Have been surfing for hours to no avail. I have absolutely no sexual desire--am on herbal replacement therapy for a year.  Has helped my many other symptoms--but still no desire.  What will increase my libido????
Looking for Love

Dear Looking:
Hi Pam.....thanks for writing! I just hope you aren't looking for answers on your lunch hour!! hahahah.... I'm afraid I can't help you that quickly! :) If you go to the NewShe.com site, you should find some helpful info there (check out the testosterone articles).

There's also this book to check out (which you can order on my site: http://www.minniepauz.com/books.html)
The Hormone of Desire : The Truth About Testosterone, Sexuality, and Menopause by  Susan Rako, M.D

The other suggestion I have for you is to type "low libido" into a search engine (like www.google.com for instance) and slowly read through the links until you find something that sounds like what you might need. Hope this helps........there's just so much information out there and each woman is so different! Let me know if any of this helps your situation!
Sincerely,
Minnie
 

Dear Minnie:
Is it normal for the hot flashes to stop for a while and then come back.  Mine have stopped for a few days .
I don't know if this happens to other people.  Maybe that is why it is called  meno pause. Maybe I am on a pause.
Pausing in Pittsburg
 

Dear Pausing,
Yes, that is very normal and you're right about the "pause" part. Our hormones are constantly fluctuating so the symptoms will also be different from day to day. Since the process of going through menopause can take from 5 to 13 years, the best attitude is to stay mindful of what is going on (as you seem to be doing), and appreciate those days when you don't have the flashes. You also might want to keep a journal and make note of any remedies you've tried recently that may have reduced your hot flashes.

Sincerely,
Minnie