Hi,
Sorry your feeling 'not so good'. {{hugs}}
I won't presume to tell you how to approach your hubby on the resentment issuse. Except to say that I understand and have been there at times. It usually passes for me.
My guess is that you are peri-menopausal. The large clots ect. You may be moody due to the lowered dose of Zoloft? I also understand how expensive those things are! I took them for about 6 months for 'situational' depression and they worked like a charm for me.....But, Zoloft is notorious for affecting sex drive and the ability to climax during sex or forplay. Sometimes the desire is there, but the body just won't or can't respond. This may be the cause of your lack of desire.
I wouldn't quit the anitdepressants without your docs. approval, but maybe you could switch kinds? Wellbutrin does not have the sexual side effects. Might be worth a try? With your doctors approval of course.

Also, Welbutrin is not as expensive as Zoloft.
Of course, anitdepresant's are a "your milage may vary", type of med. Everyone is unique and reacts differently to anti-d's.
Hope I've been able to help a small bit. {{hugs}} I think your question would be a good one to address to Dr. Judy. She should would be better able to answer your questions on what to ask the doc. regarding hormone therap and your antidepresant.
Sending good wishes and hope you are feeling better soon.
Love and stuff,
Chris N.
