by colopam » Thu Jan 18, 2007 9:36 am
I love well behaved children (in public) and for the first 40 yrs of life have been childless by choice, it was only after I married DH that I would have liked to have children thinking of what /how we'd raise them. I don't want children at this age for various reasons. I see that there are alot of spoiled children out there and VERY disrespectful. I see alot of parents that let their children run wild and don't keep an eye on them. I see some getting into some possibly dangerous situations or wandering around stores and such alone. I want to tell these people that no one else loves your children and it's not my responsibility to watch after them. I remember doing housework and helping in the yard wihtout getting an allowance (AND not being asked to do so) we just did it as we too were part of the family and that's what you did! My DSD on the other hand was never expected to behave responsibly nor taught the basics (my DH went to pick his DD up at her house for the weekend and her mom had moved and not told anyone where!!)(she didn't know how to make toast for heavens sake! what her mom and stepdad did I don't know but I know there was no discipline) but when we got her (age 15) we had a challenge, she and I communicated pretty well but I see the damage that her first 15 yrs will have on her future....but feeling maternal anymore is beyond me.... I love children....but parents have got to take on the responsibility they chose and not expect the rest of the world to do the parenting for them....it takes a village???? no what they need are parents! (just had a vague aquaintance give me a baby shower invite..jeesh!!)
Hugs Pam
It's never too late for a happy childhood!!
The more you live, the less you die!!
Well behaved women rarely make history.
DB: 1958
peri/hypothyroid/fibroids(myomectomy)
Pam