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Postby Seawind36 » Fri Jun 22, 2007 12:26 am

I am so glad I found this board! I have been sitting here crying for the last 15-20 minutes as I read. I was told 5 years ago that my hormone levels were starting to go out of whack but have ignored it. I periodically have about 15 of the 35 symptoms listed - with varying degrees of severity. I am currently 45 and nowhere near ready to let go of this. I'm probably crazy, but I'd still kinda like another baby! Imagine that - my child, if it happened, would be years younger than my grandchildren!! LOL Every once in a while I think about the possibility, but generally I ignore it. My anxiety attacks are getting worse, I'm becoming very irritable lately (although alot of that could be situational, too), I have started having headaches occassionally (for the first time in my life!), some nights I wake up for no reason, some nights I wake up soaking wet, I'm taking progesterone 10 days a month to try to get the super heavy periods under control so I won't be so anemic, my gums are getting worse (and I keep postponing going to the specialist - I hate dental work more than anything in the world!!), and recently I had this weird sharp, tingling feeling in my scalp that is hard to describe - until you see the 'electric shock sensation under the skin'..... just one more thing to remind me of what I am not ready to face. I am so confused and so scared at the moment. Goddess, I hate this feeling.

Sorry, didn't mean to start losing it. I have no one to talk to about this or anything else and I guess it's really starting to get to me. I really need to find an outlet, I think!

Thanks for listening.
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Postby colopam » Fri Jun 22, 2007 7:06 am

Welcome Seawind!!

Sounds like you're here with us!!! Be sure to check out the rest of the posts...the serch function at the top can help alot but don't hesitate to start a new subject!! Everyone question and answer helps so many more than just the one asking/answering. Check out the rest of the Minniepauz site too (sounds like you've found "the list" which is invaluable at a Dr.'s appt.). Please feel free to vent, it's one of the safe places to do so.

I have been having alot of luck with the weepies/angry's/anxiety attacks with a low dose of Lexapro. It has brought back a little of the insomnia (early waking) but I'm hoping this is a side effect that will go away.

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Postby Seawind36 » Fri Jun 22, 2007 9:51 am

Thank you for the welcome Pam! Yeah, I'm here with you - and fighting it every step of the way!! LOL Some times I just want to ignore it, sometimes I wish it was over! I'm rather tired of changing my sheets 2-3 times one week a month, tired of being afraid to leave the house one week a month, etc. This aging thing really bites!
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Postby minniepauz » Fri Jun 22, 2007 10:47 am

Robin....are you saying you're a grandmother?!!! :) You don't LOOK old enough to be one! :) I was a grandma at 47 and now I'm 59 and have 6!

We understand how you feel and usually this is the place where everyone is able to first vent and cry about the injustice of it all, and then gradually, by talking to other women and finding some are REALLY having some over the top symptoms, we are able to bring the crisis part of it down to a manageable level.

My suggestion to you is to try not to think about all the symptoms at once. Try to determine what is the worst thing you're dealing with right now and go about finding the best solution (for YOU) so that you feel a bit more in control.

I honestly think the feeling of being out of control is the worst part of menopause and peri-menopause. It's the unknown and the changes that are hard to deal with so once we have some knowledge about what to expect and what our options are, we are more in control and therefore, feel better!

I'm guessing that if you hang around here for awhile, it won't be long and you'll be helping to calm another newcomer because you know just how she feels. :) Welcome!!
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Postby psexypsychic » Fri Jun 22, 2007 12:31 pm

Welcome!

I, too, was relieved to find this site. "I'm not crazy! It isn't just ME!" I've posted the link to the main site and to the board on a few boards where I frequent and I've got a banner and link on my MySpace page. :D

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Postby hotpatootie » Sat Jun 23, 2007 9:27 am

Hi there. I don't think this aging thing bites at all, I am glad to be alive and every gray hair or new wrinkle just reminds me that I am still alive.

You will get through all this meno crap and be a better happier person when you get to the other side. I was beginning to think it would go on FOREVER, I had visions of having periods when I was still about 65, lol, but they finally stopped and most all of the symptoms have disappeared as well. Hang in there Seawind.
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Postby gorgeousfluffpot » Sat Jun 23, 2007 10:21 am

Robin, hang in there because it ain't just you!!! My normally tight-run control-freak super-organised life has gone utterly bonkers since my hormones took over my life, reducing me to a wobby tearful jelly on some days and an uber-ferocious Rottweiler on others! How dear Mr. GorgeousFluffpot manages to live with me, I really do not know.
But help is at hand, particularly if you can laugh at it. I read many entries on MinniePauz and often end up laughing. It helps to know that you're not going mad or that at least, if you are, then several dozen Minnie-Pauzers all over the world are going mad too!
My symptoms come and go - all calm here at the moment and has been for some weeks, to my surprise. But when it all hits, then all rhyme and reason goes out of the window.
That's the time to visit MinniePauz again!
So good luck, you're in good company here!
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Postby hotpatootie » Sat Jun 23, 2007 11:26 am

It is so true, you have to maintain your sense of humor, it is the most important thing you have going for you and also remember this is not some dreaded disease with no cure, it is the old saying, or however it goes, 'what does not kill us makes us stronger'.

And if your husband/mate/or insignificant other can and does realize what is going on with you and you are pretty much helpless in regards to controlling it, then that does help immensely.
I think about our mothers and grandmothers, who really had nobody to talk to about this, women were not so vocal about menopause in the old days. We are extremely lucky to have venues like this to vent on.
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Postby ladydebubba » Sat Jun 23, 2007 1:08 pm

Seawind36, hang in there. I am on a 10 day supply of Provera to get my period to start. Haven't had one in two months. I am 47. I have aches and cramps everywhere. Constant bloating, which the Provera can cause, and I guess so after two months with no period, that is a possibility also, headaches, irritability, pelvic discomfort, rear discomfort, you name it. And all at one time. I do not know what is female related and what isn't. I'm kinda wishing now I hadn't taken the Provera to make me have a period if I am stopping. But then again, it might be good to get a good cleaning out, so to speak. I have been a tense mess for the most part since January to the point of having to be put on Xanax back then. Have digestive issues, all of which can be a part of the change, but other things also. But since the other things have been ruled out somewhat, I have to assume most is related to the change slowly creeping up on me. I'm finding that things I eat affect me more now than they used to. Drives me crazy. My tolerance level has really declined alot.
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Postby Seawind36 » Sun Jun 24, 2007 12:10 am

First off, yes, Pam I am grandmother! I have 5 grandchildren at the tender age of 45 and have 4 of them living with me! Talk about challenging! The oldest one is 6 1/2 and with peri moving in full force, oooh, it's fun!

I'm dealing alot better today, have done alot of reading the boards and a little on the homepage. I'm not ready to give up hope, but I am going to try to be realistic (whatever that means!)

Hotpatootie, I am proud of my age and where I am now, but I'm finding the emotional ups and downs right now are a bit much for me. I don't know how much of it is situational and how much is hormonal, but some of the things that have been bugging me are definately hormonal! Good thing about that is that at least I can console myself with 'it's temporary' - as long as I don't focus on it could be '10 year temporary'!! LOL

I think my poor, wonderful DH has the short end of the deal here though. Poor man, we'd like a child together, but with our ages, it's not likely. On top of the ready made family that he took on, willingly, he gets to deal with this too! He's never dealt with either - kids or a peri meno woman! I have a feeling we are gonna be in for a fun ride!!! LOL At least if we live to see the end of it all, we might get to have that newlywed stage and some time alone after all!

Thanks for all the replies, ladies - it sure makes it easier to realize that I'm not just losing it!
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