So, what do you do?...

For those of you who are just beginning this wonderful process, here we can narrow down the symptoms and ask questions like "am I starting perimenopause?"

So, what do you do?...

Postby RacerWife7 » Fri Sep 05, 2008 2:02 pm

What do you do when your gynecologist says, "well, I'm the same age as you and I'm not experiencing any symptoms of perimenopause." :banghead:

...Wouldn't THAT just make your day? Here is a woman who deals with women of all ages all day long and just because SHE isn't having symptoms means I shouldn't???? Come ON!!!

Do I really have to change doctors AGAIN???? Ahhhhhh!!!
~ Janet, age 45 (46 in March 2011)
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Re: So, what do you do?...

Postby craftyvalerie » Fri Sep 05, 2008 2:49 pm

Sorry Janet.........but I went to my doc today and she says.......I didnt have any problems with my menopause......and said to me that my hormones will level out one day and I will feel good.........she offered me an anti depressant and said it heps with menopause symptoms........I told her that I had a bad reaction when I tried them so she said take xanax.....I dont know what I wanted her to say but I didnt feel good about my visit........Valerie
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Re: So, what do you do?...

Postby RacerWife7 » Fri Sep 05, 2008 3:51 pm

What's WRONG with these doctors??? WHY is it SOOOOO far-fetched to them to think that all these symptoms add up to perimenopause? And why is it that they're so intimidated by women who are willing to do some research to find out what the H-E-double-toothpicks is wrong with them? ...And, as women, why don't they (the female docs, this is) recognize the reality of us knowing our own bodies and knowing when something is wrong? ...I just can't stand the whole medical community. They do nothing but aggravate my already-off-the-charts PMS/PMDD/whatever-it-is symptoms!! AAAACCCCKKK!!!

*PHEW!* It felt good to get THAT off my chest. :lol: I'm sorry, Valerie. I had hoped nobody would say they had a similar experience. It just stinks. :?
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Re: So, what do you do?...

Postby craftyvalerie » Fri Sep 05, 2008 4:30 pm

I wish I lived by Dr.Judy!!!.....I would love to have her has my doctor.......Can we clone you Dr.Judy?
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Re: So, what do you do?...

Postby RacerWife7 » Sat Sep 06, 2008 5:04 am

I know, right??! ...The good ones are so few and far between. :?
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Re: So, what do you do?...

Postby psexypsychic » Sat Sep 06, 2008 9:47 am

My doctors are medical students doing their residency. And I get told by someone who looks like they're all of fifteen years old, "Aren't you a little young for this?"

I want to say, "Aren't you a little young to be wearing that white jacket?"

I had ONE doctor who looked to be about twenty years old who helped me. Then he graduated and once in a while, I see him for my allergy/asthma appointments. (that's his specialty). Then I had a girl... and I mean girl. My daughters looked older than she did. And out of the blue, they switched me to a new one, and he's even younger than the one who helped me. Hopefully, he can do something.

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Re: So, what do you do?...

Postby Brighid Moon » Sat Sep 06, 2008 11:36 am

My doctors are medical students doing their residency. And I get told by someone who looks like they're all of fifteen years old, "Aren't you a little young for this?"

I want to say, "Aren't you a little young to be wearing that white jacket?"


HAHAHA!

Janet, Valerie, most doctors I run into have a congenital case of ego. I switch doctors more often than I switch - okay that's not quite true, I rarely go to them because I don't trust the medical community. But I have no issue with switching if someone is an arse! And there are plenty of them to go about in the medical field, as in anywhere in society. Doctors like Judy (or my own doctors now) are rare gems amongst the coal, and you really have to dig. Most doctors I've run into can't bear the thought that you may be able to learn something about your own body, and have opinions - because you didn't spend 1/4million dollars and 8 years of studying. I've literally been told this before, on a couple of occasions. And herbs!? OMGosh the pharm companies didn't make them, the DEA can't control them, and the gov't can't tax them! LOL

Feel good and strong about yourselves in the knowledge that you're intelligent enough to know what's going on with you personally, in your body, and are willing to learn how to handle it in the safest, best ways possible - whether this means going to a doctor or specialist, taking pharm meds or farmed meds, or even switching physicians until you find someone who you are able to work with - not someone who is just going to work on you. :D

My uneducated two-cents, fwiw!
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Re: So, what do you do?...

Postby njwhite » Sat Sep 06, 2008 12:02 pm

If a doctor said that to me, I'd be out the door. That is inexcusable for a doctor to compare herself to any patient. They should be smart enough to realize that all women are different. If not, they didn't learn much in school or through experience. Not a good doctor in my opinion.

I could go further and compare it to my urologist saying...I don't leak when I sneeze or cough...
rheumotologist: my back doesn't hurt....

sigh....
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Re: So, what do you do?...

Postby minniepauz » Sat Sep 06, 2008 12:41 pm

The last doctor I saw (the first one in about 10 years), bless her heart, took all kinds of time to talk to me and ask me questions, but I could tell that I've had my menopause site on the internet longer than she's been into and out of med school and when I asked her a couple of questions (to compare with the most updated info we have), she was not quite up to date (about post menopause and taking hrt) and it sounded like she was repeating what she must have been taught in med school.

Now let me say this....I finally found a health program that would cover me based on my income, so this is the first time I've HAD a doctor's appt. in 10 years!! I was so thrilled (even though it was a paps smear) and am even looking forward to going back in a week for a mammogram!! hahahah.....Once you've been without health coverage completely, AND you're 60 yrs. old, you really start appreciating these things which can ease your mind immensely!! I'm also going to get a bone density test, which should be interesting since I've never taken hrt and my periods stopped 18 years ago.
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Re: So, what do you do?...

Postby RacerWife7 » Sat Sep 06, 2008 2:05 pm

I know she shouldn't have said that. Not only is it completely unprofessional, it's also insensitive. And I HATE insensitivity. Plus, as I was trying to talk to her, she would cut me off and talk OVER me. :x So, as much as I hate to admit it, I know I'm going to have to go somewhere ELSE... YET AGAIN. *sigh* :banghead:
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