I hate for anyone to have to go through this,but it's nice to know how common it is.I'm only 25,I'm not married,but I've been living with my fiance for almost 4 years and we have a 2 1/2 year old son.We had a pretty good sex life until I got pregnant,and it went downhill from there. I had heard that it was commom to loose your libido for a few months after you had a baby,so I just blamed it on that.But after a year I started wondering what my problem was.I have not wanted it once since I had my son. There is absolutely nothing he can do to turn me on.I love him, and I'm attracted to him,so what is wrong with me? I have to make myself do it and I hate every minute of it.I feel so bad.He's so good about it.I know he doesn't understand why he can't turn me on,and I tell him it's nothing to do with him,I know it bothers him,but he doesn't let it show,and he doesn't make me feel like he's going to go out and cheat on me,but I know we're both still young,and if things don't change soon,something will happen.We go for months sometimes.He doesn't even try or ask anymore.I have to do something about it.I know if we had a better sex life we'd have a better relationship.I've thought about trying avliml for a while now,but I wanted to look it up first,and now that I have I'm a little scared to.Someone wrote something about natural progesterone,are there any risks or side effects to that?Someone please help me.Something has got to be safe and work.Please give me some advice.
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Sevearinea.....it would definitely be worth a try. I've heard lots of women say that it really improved their libido. I think the worst that could happen is that you might be one that doesn't get any benefit. If you have a doctor who will prescribe natural hormones, then ask about it. If you don't have a doctor, you can order it online, but you should read everything you can about it so that you know what kind to get. You can usually get a lot of help (and the progesterone) at a good healthfood store too.
I do hope you have someone who can help you figure out why you have this problem. It's obviously a hormone imbalance, but finding the right combination of estrogen, progesterone and testosterone can be quite a challenge. At your young age, you shouldn't have to go through all this.
Rebel with the Pause
http://www.minniepauz.com
Dee Adams
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Sevearinea,
I would ask your doctor to check your testosterone levels. If they are low it can really affect your libido. If it is low you can get bio-identical(same chemically as what the human body makes) testosterone. I use a small amount of testosterone in a cream twice a week only and it has an affect on libido. My testosterone was low and for me I still had a libido but was feeling low energy and trouble remembering etc. I use a very small amount of testosterone cream(from a compounding pharmacy) and it has made a huge difference in how I feel. I am 44 by the way.
The progesterone might work for you as well. I would do some reading on this whole subject. Are your periods otherwise normal? Are they different in any way from before your son was born?
I have to say that when my kids were small I had no libido either. I was so exhausted with taking care of them that sex was the farthest thing from my mind. It did come back slowly as they got older and really came back after they were both in school. Its a lot of work raising little ones so don't discount that explanation either
best wishes to you.
Becky in OHIO
LAVH/BSO 10-99
I am not a medical professional. Always discuss anything you learn at Hyster Home with your personal physician
Natural Progestrone, etc.
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Tracy,
I just found this site and was reading the postings. I found a wonder resource by a Dr. John Lee called "What You Doctor May Not Have Told You About Menopause". It has lots of amazing and valuable info whether you are menopausal or pre-menopausal (which can be way earlier than most of us think). I am a surgical hyster. survivor. I am 49 but went under the knife at in 1995. I was on "the patch" up until last summer and took myself off. I started having mood swings, trouble sleeping, hot flashes and fatigue. I read this dear former GP's book and it makes alot of sense. There are resources he lists including an address/phone to a lab that does hormone testing. This is done via a kit that you provide a sample of your saliva to be tested. It is $30 per hormone tested so it could really narrow things down for you. Can even be a combo of hormones you may be lacking in. You will see in the book how vital these little buggers are and if they are out of balance so are we and our lives. Fascinating and frustrating at once. This hormone test doesn't have to have a doctor write a lab order for it. You just send for it. Also, it took Dr. Lee's advice and started with the natural progestrone cream. It can't be just any progestrone cream...must be a certain percentage. The one I use is Pro-Gest by Emerita. I purchase a 4oz tube for $27.95 plus postage via the internet at
http://www.vitaminexpress.com. That is approximately a 2 month supply. That is a great price as it is about $25.00 for a 2oz. tube at my local health food store! You must be patient though as it took me about 3 - 4 weeks to see the solid change, but it worked. The progest cream has helped to right my mood swings and I sleep like a baby again, however my libido STINKS. I am grateful for a patient husband. Not to be personal, but my probably isn't arousal...my problem is being the one to initiate sex. I don't even think about sex anymore. If I see a good looking man, I have not a thought -- unlike the past. This is scary. I love sex, but my husband needs to feel like I want him. The progest hasn't helped me in this department so I suspect my testosterone is low, but I am terrified that if I take any of that then I will grow a beard or take on male characteristics in other physical ways. I haven't taken the saliva tests yet but will do so on this one. Now for my hotflashes which were killers. I use Walmart's Equate brand of Menopausal Support which is the same ingredients as Remifemin, but much cheaper. The Equate brand is about $9.95 for 1 month supply. It worked for me in about 3 weeks. I hope that some of this is helpful for you.
If anyone else out there has any suggestions I would love to hear them too.
The Dr. Lee book I purchased at Books-A-Million, but Borders and Barnes and Noble carry it as well.
Good luck.
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here is the link for Dr. Lee's site. www,johnleemd.com
Becky in OHIO
LAVH/BSO 10-99
Becky's Hysterectomy Story
Hyster Home ~ Hysterectomy Support
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dear sousee,
Thank you for your posting. I have saved it and I will bring it with me next time I see my doctor.
Thanks again!
Peace,
Tracy
what about girls like me?
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hi. i'm 21 and i'm dry a lot, but can fix that with lubrication, but i do find that i just lose interest in sex. I heard the commercial, and i thought that this might work for me. i don't want to use it all the time, just when my sex drive seem to fail me. Does anyone know if the progesterone would work for me,or am i "@#%$ out of luck?"