I'm Kathy, and I am 41 years old, well...almost 42,

I have been wondering if I was in peri menapause, and perhaps that is the real root of my problems. I have night sweats, irritability, trouble sleeping. loss of libido, weight gain and memory lapses. And something else I have noticed that I don't know if it is related to it or not, but the Dr. just shrugged it off (male Dr.), like its no big deal. When I urinate, after stopping, or thinking I have stopped, I will begin to urinate again not just a teaspoon or so, but like starting all over. I saw that incontinence was a symptom, and didn't know if this could be as well.
Right now my main problems are with the night sweats , loss of libido, and biting people's heads off .
Does anyone have any suggestions how I can control these things?
Kathy